needs

humans are such funny creatures.

doing duty last nite got me thinking.. why do some humans have the need to elevate themselves in front of others. these ppl tend to either over-exaggerate themselves or say things which completely did not happen. all this for the sake of being able to feel good abt themselves. all this for the sake of others to go "wah, u so good ah.. really did that ah.."

i guess most ppl would rather avoid toking to this particular group of ppl and simply label them as "tua kang". but put urself in their shoes and in their mind. im thinking these guys did not really have a fantastic childhood. thus their undying lust for attention. maybe as kids, they were ignored by the ppl ard them and i noe for a fact that every child needs his fare share of attention during those crucial growing up years. so they have a tendency to seek the attention that was stolen from them.

now instead of avoiding them, perhaps we should feel sorry for these guys and try to understand them. i mean how hard is it to jus stand there, nod away and drop the occasional "wah!" or "really?" while he rattles on. by simply doing that, these guys will be getting the attention they want and u would gotten another fren. not to mention they feel dat u understand them. now this is where u can make the changes in their lives. once they think that u understand them, they would be more open during conversations wid u and u would be able to slowly change the way they think.

its not gonna be easy thou and the changes are surely not gonna happen overnite. in fact its gonna take a pretty long time before the changes start coming. but thru a sustained effort, u can make a difference in someone else's lives.

sorry gotta go conduct first parade liao.